Relationships: The Trials and Triumph of it!

Well I must say that I aint an expert on this one but still managed to compile what I felt is the best that I can observe.

Well Relationships….They are sweet, sometimes sour, sometimes loud sometimes mellow…And this is something which is never you can never get enough of!

I have met a lot of people who had been in a relationship….some couples were formed in school where the guy admist a crowd of 10 people proposes to a girl who is alone (the only time in her entire 10 years in school). Naturally, girl says NO…guy is dejected and then goes and sulks for a couple of days….This awakens his “best friends” who happen to be good friends with the girl in question….Then there is a session in which the friends try to do a “ram milaye jodi” kinda thing and finally after 3 whole days of sulking which has given the guy enough sympathy to last a good 6-7 years, the girl utters the best words the guy can hear “I love u too” (of course nothing tops the words like “you have scored 100/100 in maths!!). And then for a good 2-3 months this tota maina relationship is on full charge!!..Very few of these last beyond this time period!! People at this age make use of a word to start a relationshipà LOVE…I don’t think that this word is the basis for any relationship to start…you cant just start loving a person from the onset of a relationship…you start LIKING a person! But no debates here as we all know kids at this age are incredibly stupid and a relationship at that age is a fad!

Some couples get formed during junior college days…but most of these relationships are short term ones! They never last beyond the junior college terms! And the best part is that everyone knows this fact….Some of the relationships created during the school phase die out here….But this is an enjoyable period…for people who go thru this time period, all I can say is----à make use of this time to explore as you might not get such a better chance later!

Now we are in Degree College and the definition of the word relationship has changed People now look at this from a matured angle! They come to know that what they are doing is some serious business and become aware of the consequences of their actions. Some people get mature quickly and become oversmart and some still stay in the fantasy world of school and think that when a guy and girl are laughing and sharing a plate of hakka noodles together, they are going around!!!!

Guys and girls in this time period are more of friends of each other. They observe the things they like about each other (NOT all of them do this) and then slowly get attracted towards each other. They do everything together apart from proposing. This is where people are introduced to the fear of commitment!!! I have seen a lot of people who have come close to each other…dated each other but haven’t mentioned the words about being committed to each other!! By the time they get close to saying words like “I love u!”…college is already over and this relationship which started off well looks like a fling! BTW remaining couples which were made in schools if they somehow manage to last thru to this phase, a major part of those relationships die out here!

Office is the time where certain people come to get into a relationship. I am not saying that everyone does this but the people who still have that college mindset do this. But this is a difficult proposition. A guy wont know whether the girl he is about to approach is older or younger to him. This is the most difficult time to have a relationship but I feel this is the time when you are getting your bearing right and looking out for what is good and what is bad for you….So why just restrict ourselves to our career. Why not think about our lives here also? This is where getting into a relationship comes in. You start thinking in the present for the future.

This is my personal take on a good relationship!

First start liking someone or start hating someone. Hating becoz sometimes totally opposites attract!!! Then see if you still want to be around that person. If you do then you probably have a thing for that person. Go with your instincts. Enjoy the happy moments. Do a lot of nice things for each other. Fight a lot!!!. I guess the fighting bit becoz this is the only way to get to know the bad side of each other. If you find that the bad side of the person is something which you simple cannot tolerate then you can end the relationship without too much of a hassle. So if you can handle the bad side of someone you don’t have a problem with that someone! Do not compromise comprehensively on major things in a relationship (eg way of living, clothes etc) Becoz then you are not in a relationship but on a negotiating table! Enjoy the moments you spend together and be understanding of the other person’s problem. This is something which we often forget! And finally marry this one!! J

Oh I forgot!..The relationships which have lasted thru school, junior college degree college and office, if they are still alive, then those are really matches made in heaven. I personally know only a single couple who have attended this honour and this is the only thing I can say: God bless his own creation! :)))

Merci beaucoup !

AJ